Men, Where Have We Gone?

Caleb Pollema—Staff Writer

Another shooting, another political debate over gun control and school safety has ensued.

“There has been nothing but political gun control arguments on my Facebook feed,” said freshman Adam Maser.

Regardless of the side of the political aisle on which you stand or what position of the gun control debate that you side with, one thing is certain: There is something very wrong with the hearts of men.

Nikolas Cruz, the shooter in the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting in Florida, was a troubled soul. He lacked stability in his family life and his home life.

This theme is evident in other mass shootings in the United States in recent years. We saw this same phenomenon occur in the Las Vegas shooting in October with 64-year-old, Stephen Paddock.

Men are losing their minds.

Families are troubled and fathers are nowhere to be found. Fathers have not raised their sons, and sons have not respected their fathers.

The bond and love between father and son seems to have been lost. So often men shy away from the word love because it looks soft and shows weakness.

“There needs to be an appropriate amount of discipline and love,” freshman Cole Evans said.

Fathers need to reclaim their space as leaders in the home and by doing so instill a level of discipline and love.

“It’s like the relationship between a player and his coach,” Maser said. “I need to respect my coach, but my coaches also need to respect me.”

The balance between discipline and love is unique to each father-son relationship, and it takes time to build such a relationship and balance.

I myself have been blessed with a great dad. He is one of people that I look up to most in everything.

However, some fathers and sons have rocky relationships that don’t end so well. This is truly a shame for both the son and his father.

Regardless of how our current relationships with our fathers stand, we must all agree that we can model our relationship after God and his relationship with each of us as sons.

We can love each other boldly and pray for each other more fervently. When we do this, maybe—just maybe—we will begin to see change in our land.

Maybe we will begin to see fathers and sons come alongside one another to build each other up and not tear each other down.

I find it fitting that the week after such travesty and loss in Florida, we experienced another loss, though not in the same token.

We experienced the loss of one of the greatest evangelists of the 20th century, Billy Graham. Graham preached the Gospel of Jesus Christ across the world.

“Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love,” Graham said once in an interview.

Men across our nation should heed the words of the late Mr. Graham. We are in a time when we need nothing more than the peace and love of Jesus in this world of mass shootings and violence.

I hope that men, young and old, will understand the importance of reclaiming their true purpose and calling in our society: to lead one another out of love and discipline.

I hope that fathers and sons can be blessed by each other and grow together in respect and friendship.

Men, I hope we can learn to love again.

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